What would you do if you knew you could not fail? It’s a provocative question. What are you afraid of; what’s stopping you? What do you want to do with your life? How do you want to define, (design), yourself? Often we save questions like these for transition points in people’s lives, students on the brink of graduation, the newly married/divorced, or the recently unemployed.  Possibilities lay at their feet and whether we are excited by or envious of those opportunities, we acknowledge them.  “What’s your plan; what’s next?” We beg for a sneak peek at the next phases of their lives. What about your life?

Caught up in the daily details of life, it is too easy to fall into the trap of managing versus fully living our lives. Many people do not take the time to question whether they are on track to realizing their dreams. They do not stop to question what is missing; what would it take to turn their good life into their ideal life? We become content with, but not excited by, our lives. Sometimes all it takes is a few small changes, socializing more, working on having a closer relationship with your spouse, bringing your children’s behaviors under control. For others the changes might be more dramatic, like ending a bad relationship, devoting your nights and weekends to starting a new business, or house swapping with someone on a different continent. Studies show that people are happiest when they are striving towards achieving an attainable goal, yet, many adults do not have a goal that they are actively pursuing. Imagine the life you would love to lead and check it against the reality of your current life.